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Colossal Parenting
A big, honest, practical approach to the hardest job you'll ever love.
Your Family, Your Way
Discipline that's aligned with what you actually believe.
Here's a question most parents have never been asked: what are your family's values?
Not what you think they should be. Not what your parents' values were. What do YOU and your partner actually believe matters most?
Because if you don't know the answer to that, you end up trial-and-erroring your way through every challenge. Trying random tips from experts and influencers, wondering why something works for your neighbor but not for you. Your kids can't predict what's coming, so they push every boundary to find out.
When your discipline is anchored to your values, it gets simpler. Not easy — simpler. You stop asking "what do I do about this behavior?" and start asking "what does our family believe, and how does that guide my response?"
That shift changes everything. The rules make sense. The follow-through feels natural. And your kids start to internalize the WHY, not just the WHAT.
Your goal shifts, too. Instead of trying to control your kids' behavior, you focus on reinforcing what your family believes matters most in life. That's a game changer.
Colossal Parenting
All parents struggle at times.
You didn't think it would be this hard. Not the logistics — you expected the sleepless nights and the mess. It's the other stuff. The guilt after you lose your cool. The sinking feeling when nothing you try seems to work.
Let me assure you: you are not the problem. Your kid isn't the problem.
People are not problems.
You can't fix a person. You can solve a problem, once it's defined. Colossal parents figure out what's actually going on and change the problematic patterns...not the people.
You're not in this alone.
Every family hits rough patches. Every human loses their cool sometimes. Coaching helps you figure out what to do differently so those moments happen less often. And when they do happen, you'll have the tools to get through them well.
When things go south
Most parents want to stay calm. Maybe you started waking up early to get some much needed quiet time. Perhaps you tried getting better sleep, cutting caffeine, grounding yourself with meditation or yoga. That all helps manage the stress throughout most of the day...
But there's that moment each evening, maybe around 5:17pm. You suddenly feel the stress you've been carrying all day. Someone's whining, while someone else needs help with homework. Something spills. Your partner walks in and says — in words or tone — exactly what you don't need to hear just then. You need a plan to keep things G-rated in the kitchen.
So let's build your family's plan for getting through tough moments while strengthening:
Communication
Because most of us are talking AT our kids when we mean to be talking WITH them. Know your goal first. Then open your mouth.
Relationships
The relationship is the foundation. When we build trust back into the daily interactions — the small moments, not just the big ones — everything else gets easier.
Problem Solving
You don't have to carry this alone. Your kids can be part of the solution. When families solve problems together, the solutions actually hold.
Discipline
Start firm, loosen over time. Have a plan before things escalate. Being proactive — not reactive — is what actually reduces the blow-ups.
Workbook
A Plan for When Things Get Stressful
You need a plan to keep things G-rated in the kitchen. This workbook helps your family create one — with practices for talking about emotions, managing stress, and solving problems together.
- Practices for regulating emotions and managing stress as a family
- Strategies for talking about feelings — for adults and kids
- Printable worksheets and visuals to use every day
- A family plan you can build together and start using immediately
Intentional Parenting
Everyday practices that keep your family connected
Colossal parenting isn't just about handling the hard moments. It's about how you show up in the ordinary ones. These five practices aren't crisis strategies. They're what make the hard moments happen less often.
1. Notice Your Kids
Instead of "Great job on your homework!" try "You sat down and finished that whole assignment before dinner." When you evaluate, kids start performing for the praise. When you observe, kids feel seen.
2. Empathize (For Real, Not Performatively)
"You're okay" and "It's all going to be fine" can shut kids down. Empathy sounds like "Ugh, that's tough." It feels like sitting together in the ick. When kids feel understood, defenses go down and conversations open up.
3. Prioritize Connection
Stop what you're doing, focus your attention, and truly listen. Not while you're also checking email. More connection is built in daily, deliberate moments than in big occasional gestures or annual family events.
4. Use Your Values as Guidelines
Name the things you deem most important. Instill them in your kids by talking about them daily. Use them to guide your expectations and determine your discipline. Let your shared family values form the foundation for your interactions.
5. Solve Problems Cooperatively
If you're solving for the wrong problem, the solution isn't going to work. Understand the actual cause first. (Spoiler: Kid misbehavior is rarely the problem. It's usually a symptom.) Bring your kid into the process. When kids are involved, you better define the problem and have more buy-in on the solution.
It's never too late to start any of this.
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